We recorded this one mid-regression. Both twins have ear infections, the four-year-old has nightmares, and we’re averaging four hours of sleep. Split, not consecutive.
So we dug into the science of twin sleep all ten studies of it. Small field, small samples, mostly focused on moms.
What we found: separate rooms improve everyone’s sleep (great, if your house has spare rooms ours doesn’t). Co-bedding helps in early infancy, but by seven months it’s mostly friendly hand-to-hand combat. And the counterintuitive one: don’t sprint to the crying twin. Twins get used to each other’s crying better than adults do wait a few minutes, and the sleeping one usually stays asleep.
We also discuss the snoo-to-crib transition. You’re dropping swaddles, motion, and white noise all at once, so avoid starting during an ear infection. Plus, we explore why the “mom does the nights” story doesn’t work for families with twins. Finally, we reframe our approach to stay sane: we’re not sleep training two babies. We’re building one sleep system with two inputs well that’s the plan at the moment.
Wish us luck!
